"I can’t recommend Barbara highly enough. Going through my divorce has been upsetting and stressful. Having Barbara felt like my hand has been held throughout the process, making me feel strong and confident. Barbara has listened to me, understood and empathised with my situation, something the lawyers do not do. Everyone needs Barbara, I just wish I knew about her earlier."
Client L - April 2024
"Barbara has coached me through a difficult difficult period helping me to understand myself & my goals more clearly and to see the future in a way I never thought possible. Her professional and intelligent approach has enabled me to put in place a structure for me to follow with my own goals and to stay focused on the things which make me fulfilled and happy.
Barbara’s legal background has also positioned her in a way that elevates her from other coaches. She shows empathy and strength which rubs off and helps you to focus on you. I can’t recommend her highly enough."
Client A- May 2024
"I was blindly suffering from trauma bonds with my ex - having someone to talk this through with - gave me understanding and clarity of what was actually going on- allowing me to entangle my own overthinking brain - giving me a clear road to follow - Barbara has given me the space & time I needed to unclutter my thoughts & to start building my own new future - thank you "🙏
Client S - May 2024
The demise of a meaningful and once loving relationship is life-changing, and it is the second most challenging experience to live through after the death of a loved one.
Whether the relationship has ended because either you or your spouse or partner has chosen to do so, or because a significant life event has lead either of you to question your current relationship status, the fallout can be overwhelming.
The realisation that the end of a chapter in one’s life may take time to manifest, alternatively it may be like a knock-out blow. Either way when the realisation hits it can often feel impossible to cope with.
All too often, the end of a relationship is followed by the presentation of a spreadsheet where the person with the most assets tells the other party in the divorce that the spreadsheet is an accurate reflection of the household finances. Furthermore, that the financial settlement can be dealt with amicably, and that there is no need to involve solicitors (until the very end when the agreement can be formalised). Finally that you can trust the information on the spreadsheet. In many situations that may often be the case, and an amicable resolution is always preferable if children are involved.
Unfortunately, these amicable intentions do not always last long and sometimes emotions take over and what was once “ours” becomes “mine”. The contribution of the other party is soon forgotten and the acknowledgement that one party is not able to earn as much as the other, because of the sacrifice made to raise a family is cast aside. This person who sacrificed a career to provide childcare and all the related household chores is reminded that they made no valuable contribution to the marriage because in the end it all comes down to the financial contribution each party made.
It is often, that one party cannot produce a wage slip or a P60 to show their significant contribution to the relationship as a cook, P.A., taxi driver, parent, dogwalker, caterer, shopper, admin assistant, tutor. There is often no acknowledgement of a career sacrificed, voluntary work undertaken, the hours of cooking fresh meals every day, the daily breakfasts, lunches and snacks which were provided. They forgot about the suitcases that were packed and unpacked before and after work trips and holidays. All the household administration (insurance, utilities, media, alarm, heating systems, household and vehicle maintenance, tax returns and household budgeting, school choices, university searches and accommodation) are often all left to one party, perceived to be of no value.